In this state of overwhelm, you can appear selfish and egotistical. Remember it is survival. The “survival of the fittest” mode is re-active and not responsive to living in healthy and productive ways. Sometimes in order to survive another facet of this seeming selfish behavior turns into a selfless pattern through self-guilt, self-shame and self-blame. In order to counteract being called selfish, egotistically self-absorbed and self-centered, you may flip the switch into a deeper dive of the survival behavior of self-sacrifice and become self-less.
What is self-less? It is becoming a survivalist invisible self. You are less. You begin to sacrifice your life for the so-called good of others. This is not about assisting and being supportive of others. This is about sacrificing your life as the non-entity person who absorbs the problems and issues of the others in your life. Their life becomes more important than yours. You become, again and again, less while those around you are more! The more you give in this sacrifice mode, the more you become less. Your life revolves around someone else outside of you, whether this relationship is beneficial to you or not. You will seek validation for your “good works” without real concern for your Self. You become Self-Less and the others outside of you become More. You are invisible to your Self and even to those who you are sacrificing your life. They expect you to be less because you make your Self less.
“How you are treated is how you give people permission to treat you!” Sherryism
Being Selfish and Self-less does not support you, your life, your relationships or anything about your life to be healthy in any way. They are both sacrificing your Self in one way or another. Selfish is pushing people away from your life. Self-less is diminishing your Self with people in your life. In both cases nonetheless.. it is sacrificing your Self.
What is Centered in Self? Centered in Self is balanced, focused, directed and clear about your Self. You are not hooked emotionally to past experiences, situations or events that have taken place in your life. You are completely in the moment. You realized with “real eyes” that you are the conscious creator of your life and all of your experiences. Being Centered on Self is neither Selfish or Self-Less in any aspect of your life.
“Knowing at my deepest knowing I cannot change the past… the past is one second ago and the future is one second from now and I change my future by not dragging my past forward where it no longer servers me.” Sherryism
Centered in Self is Power Full and Power Filled. This is the point “Force” is the Selfish you trying, trying and trying, which is trying to force someone to see it your way. Self-less is you giving up your Power to someone else, some group and/or some way that forces you to be or do something that does not serve you but you give in to be less for the “them” whoever, he, she or they are!
Centered in Self is Being Power Full and Power Filled! Being Centered in Self is you determine how your life is every moment, every day in a kind loving way. Being Centered on Self is heart-based. Your heart is the most expansive resonance in your body. It is unlimited in how you create, participate and be involved in your life. Being Centered on Self is creating and having loving relationships without the traumas and the dramas. Being Centered in Self supports both your personal and professional life to be fully filled.
Centered in Self is you completely comprehend that you are the creator of your life. In this stance on life, people know where you stand. This does not mean being hard or inflexible. It means you are loving, flexible and involved in all that you are being and doing. Your beingness creates your doingness!
When you are Centered in Self there are no reasons to have regret, guilt or shame about anything.
“You did the best and worst you could, with what you knew and didn’t know…
And it is mostly what you didn’t know at that time, don’t hold on!… Sherryism
Being Centered in Self is Freeing. In this state of Beingness, you are being authentic. You don’t have to explain your Self. In this state of consciousness, you know who you are. Is this a process? Of course, Rome was not built in a day but it got built. And remember it also got destroyed many times because of the Selfishness and Self-lessness of whoever! Being Centered in Self is a progressive process of learning about your Self minus judgment. You recognize how you are participating in life. You can now choose how you participate or not without wronging or judging anyone else. You are living and creating in your own TRUTH!
What is your Truth? Your Truth is guided by your Heart, and how you feel, not thinky thinking of your Selfish and Self-less based always on surviving and sacrificing your Self. Being Centered in Self is never having to repeat any relationship, situation or event again that never did serve you. Being Centered in Self is definitely in charge of your life, how and why you create your life and you do not have to explain or excuse your Self to anyone. Why? Because you are heart-based…first for your Self and then for others! You are alive not surviving.
Being Centered on Self is the way to create your purposes in life. You don’t just have one purpose. You have many. Each moment, each day, each week, each month, and each year belongs to you and provides you with opportunities to experience life as you create the experiences you are choosing to experience in your life. This is being Centered on Self… in full purposes, in full participation in every way… personally and professionally. Embrace your Centeredness. Embrace your Purposes. Embrace your Life…all by Embracing your Full of Life Centered in Self Beingness!
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