The holidays are a time of joy, togetherness, and celebration—or at least that’s the ideal. But often, they come with a heavy burden: unrealistic expectations. The perfect holiday meal, the perfect decorations, the perfect gifts—everything must be flawless. But here’s the truth: perfection doesn’t exist.
What Does “Perfection” Really Mean?
According to Wikipedia:
Perfection is a flawless state where everything is exactly right. It can also be the action of making something perfect. Since perfect things are without fault or flaw, perfection is a perfect condition — everything is 100% great. Of course, perfection is hard to find.
Let’s pause for a moment. Perfection is “hard to find”? Was it lost? If perfection can’t even live up to its definition, how can we? No wonder chasing perfection feels like a losing game. It’s unattainable from the start.
The Weight of Expectations
Now let’s look at “expectations.” By definition, it’s “a strong belief that something will happen or be the case in the future.” Here’s the kicker: “Reality had not lived up to expectations.”
This constant push to meet unrealistic standards creates anxiety, which has become an epidemic in our society. Holidays often amplify these feelings. When perfection is the goal, the journey starts with failure, leading to stress and disappointment instead of joy.
What Can We Do?
It’s time to reframe. What if we let go of the unrealistic and focused on what truly matters? Perfection doesn’t need to be flawless; it can simply be what works for you. Embrace the creativity and individuality in every holiday moment.
For example:
- That imperfectly decorated tree? It’s perfect because it was decorated with love.
- The holiday meal that didn’t turn out as planned? It’s perfect because it brings people together.
When we let go of rigid expectations, we make room for something far better: connection, fun, and joy.
Shifting to Heart-Centered Holidays
Instead of striving for perfection, focus on the resonance of joy and connectedness. The holidays are about togetherness, whether it’s with family, friends, co-workers, or even strangers. When you approach the season with an open heart and a spirit of gratitude, there’s no room for anxiety or unrealistic expectations to take over.
So how can you shift your mindset this holiday season?
- Be Present: Stay in the moment and embrace what’s happening now, not what “should” happen.
- Be Grateful: Appreciate the small joys and connections around you.
- Be Your Authentic Self: Celebrate in meaningful ways to you and your loved ones.
Whole Days of Joy
Holidays are an opportunity to create “whole days” full of joy, gratitude, and celebration. Let your inner happiness shine, radiating from within to your outside world. There’s no need for perfection—only the intention to share love and laughter.
Celebrate Your Way
This holiday season, give yourself the gift of freedom from unrealistic expectations. Be the difference for yourself first, and let that joy ripple out to others. Celebrate in the ways that resonate with your heart and make your holidays truly whole.
Sherryism: “Create your momentous moments, one moment at a time!”