There is so much mystique surrounding the idea of a Soul Mate, especially in the delusional illusion idea that a Soul Mate is the romantic lead in your play. Not that a Soul Mate cannot be romantic but more times than not, a Soul Mate can come in all kinds of guises in your life. You write the scripts, you cast the players, and so amazingly you stage the performances. In the dynamics of your screenplay throughout your time continuum, you are always the central figure.

In this lifetime of your continuum or in the venues of other lifetimes, you manage your role and roles…easily sometimes and sometimes not so well. Basically when you are caught up in the search for the perfect person, you forget you are the perfect person inside you. The proverbial search is always outside, searching, searching and more searching for the validation of a Soul Mate to fulfill your life. More times than not, your life is not a playful play but it becomes a series of operatic or soap operas of trauma dramas because you are not connected to your Self. You seek outside approval and outside connection, wasting far too much time and effort. Look inward.

There is no such thing as a single Soul Mate outside of you that completes you. It doesn’t mean you can’t have a special love in your life. But if you look objectively at the people in your life, you can love them all in different ways. Each one is a specific Soul Mate to you for very definite and different reasons. It is how you define these individuals in your life that determines how these many Soul Mates contribute to your journey or take away from you in your journey. You brought them into your life, so make sure from the inside of you why you are including them. Whether romantic, friend or frenemy… you chose them!

Soul Mates come in all forms in your casting call: close and not so close family members, long time friends and even those who come in and out of your life through your life. These are the ones that you don’t see that often. Yet, when you do see them, it is like time never passed. You pick up right where you left off. There is a certain comfort and security in these Soul Mates who appreciate the reciprocity of the relationship without the emotional baggage of some of your Soul Mates.

Soul Mates can even come in the form of frenemies, the ones you consider your challenges. You get it, the ones you have labeled as being against you. These individuals come in many forms also: co-workers, family members, sometimes parents and even significant others and spouses. Oops…what happened to that romantic Soul Mate idea?

Everyone with whom you interact in any kind of relationship believed “close” in the appearance of personal and/or professional are actually your cast of Soul Mates who are either contributing or testing you in your script and the dialogue you write for each other.

Whether consciously aware or not, the Soul Mates who test you the most may be the best contributors to your script. They may be the ones who offer you opportunities to become more objective and less emotional about your Self. These challengers may present you with your best chances to overcome some of your deep core issues. How perfect is that?!?! Soul Mates are amazing.

So when you get down to the nitty-gritty of Soul Mates, the real one, your one and only Soul Mate is YOU! Don’t waste any more time searching the world over, putting it out there in the Universe that you have to have a Soul Mate to complete you. You are already complete and whole when you accept and recognize you are your own ideal Soul Mate. All the rest of the cast are those Soul Mates who come into your life to interact with you, teach you, trauma drama with you, play with you and add flavor and spice. It is not always the length of time you shared with a person, but the experience in the time you shared that makes the difference.

So stop wasting time in the search for your Soul Mate. Appreciate your Self first. Be the best Soul Mate to your Self. Now you can appreciate all the people in your life, in whatever roles they play in your script. Enjoy them all! To Soul Mates!

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